Recently while researching more topics associated with Minimalism (yes, that is what I door fun), I started reading more on the mindfulness movement.  That led to my discovery of meditation and its benefits. I started meditating once a day and now if I don’t have that opportunity, I long for it.  At the same time, I also began reading the book below:


I’m a little behind the curve.  The book  is two years old.  I adore Dan Harris and he will be going on my ‘InspiringMinds’ page.  His personality of worry and skepticism is so similar to mine that it felt like I had written the book, but didn’t have to go through all the insane situations.I would laugh out loud while reading his book (like I’m cray cray).

Come to find out-today-he also has a new podcast! And app.

I tweeted Dan a message this week, something funny about the first time he meditated (not expecting a response since he is a celebrity and all), and then I got a little notification that he “liked” my tweet. I was WOW-ed…….then I realized my tweet had a type-O and I had sent it to a writer/journalist. Nice.  Life is just keeping me humble.


The Batts Motel: Minimalists Without the Label

Oh Yes They Did!

I would like to introduce you to my friends, The Batts Family: Wendy, Howie, Helena and Georgia-Belle.

After Wendy’s father passed away, she inherited 6 acres of land in “the nature,” as I say.  They were renting a 1800SF home in Killearn and weren’t sure where they wanted to plant their roots. They did however know that they intended to save money while thinking about their next move.  SO, they sold/donated/eliminated 90% of their possessions (My heros!), to move into a 100SF camper on the land they now owned. They kept their washer/dryer and yard clearing tools–THAT’S IT. Five outfits for each adult (it’s all the camper closet would hold) and maybe 8-10 outfits for their teenage daughter.

This is where they lived for 8 months-Husband, wife, teenage daughter and dog.


They eventually decided to plant roots on this land and were able to build a home with all of the money they saved.  I knew Wendy before I knew Minimalism.  I was one of the few (two) people she told that wouldn’t “judge her.”  They knew what they were doing wasn’t “normal” to most people and just didn’t want to answer a lot of questions.  Or the same question over and over again. I think being debt-free and building a house you can afford should be everybody’s normal.

Howie moved a lot growing up so neither he nor Wendy ever really accumulated a lot of stuff, nor did they hold sentimental attachments to things.  Emotionally speaking, minimizing the stuff (down to their beds and furniture) was easy for them.  They are an extremely tight-knit family who, not knowing anything about Minimalism, naturally valued family relationships and love over things. Wendy and I worked together during this time, and it wasn’t until she got a new job and left that I discovered Minimalism.  I was crazy excited with my new discovery but I was just preaching to the choir with her!

Even now they don’t fill their house with anything they don’t need or that doesn’t add value.  They said that moving into 1300SF felt like living in a mansion to them, amplified by the fact that they had no furniture!  They take nothing for granted in that house, but they also don’t try to fill with anything other than love and necessities.  I was curious what they appreciated the most about the house after camper-life. Was it all the space and room? No. They would willingly live in a small space again….just not a camper.  It was the plumbing and central heat and air! Evidently, the camper had no insulation ergo when it was hot outside it was REALLY hot inside-same with cold. I’m still forbidden to talk about the plumbing issues.

[Insert sub-story about Uncle Robert later]

When I visited them at home and asked them what they value most aside from family, Wendy said “This! This is our paradise.” The land from her father and the house they built and turned into a home by moving in and being a family.  The family bond was strengthened by their willingness to challenging the norm and do something different….living with less, but living more.

Paradise. Found…….and Appreciated.


Minimalism: Kids

Evan (3YOA): Minimalist in Training

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This is probably the second most asked about subject after my closet.  First let me say, it is possible. And the sooner you start shifting focus away from the material things onto experiences, the easier (I suspect). I don’t have a teenager, but I was one once so I can imagine it would be a bit more challenging to do this transition with them, than a 3 year old.

We really underestimate our kids.  Evan already has this innate desire for happiness and wants everyone to feel it.  He already values love and experiences over the stuff.  He is very empathetic. I’m quite impressed and so very proud of him. Everyday.

Strategy: Toys

Now, that being said,  I’m not going to deny my child toys. I just want to instill in him a sense of gratitude and joyful contribution over accumulation. Usually, after Christmas or his birthday (or any time his toy box starts to get full), I open it up and say: “You just got some really nice toys.  There are a lot of kids who don’t have toys.  What should we give them that you don’t play with anymore?”

Honestly, he gives-a lot-freely and effortlessly.  When he got his bike for Christmas he willingly donated his tricycle (previously, the love of his life-and it was second-hand.).  Again I let this be his choice.  I never give any of his things away without his approval.

Anytime there is a charity drive, I let him be apart of the giving.  Recently we just donated underpants and PJs to the local foster child organization. He went with me to shop and select the items and helped me deliver them to the drop-off location. Every year we do Operation Christmas Child together. We go to the Dollar Tree and he picks the toys for the kids and we pack those shoeboxes tight!

Joshua Becker of Becoming Minimalist  has a family and I’ve  found his website to be quite helpful. Anytime I get stumped, I go there for reference.  So far, so good.  I think Evan is better at this than me!

Strategy: The Baby Toy/Equipment Rotation

I used this technique before becoming a Minimalist.  It was birthed (haha) more out of a financial strategy.


Babies grow out of the clothes and toys very quickly. Hand me downs are awesome, but my friends and I also started what I referred to as a toy rotation. We all had kids at different times within a 5 year span so instead of buying the big ticket baby items individually, we shared.   We shared the swing, travel system-car seat-stroller thing, and of course toys (i.e. floor gyms, bouncys).  When one kid grew out of them (typically within 3 months), another was usually born. This solved 2 problems:

  1. Money-No joke, we probably saved a couple thousand dollars.
  2. Space-We cleared space in our own homes until it was time to use, or re-use in their case, certain items.  Nobody had to house or store a big huge baby swing for more than 3 months.

Strategy: Kid Artwork

My personal strategy is to digitize the important pieces that you really like and recycle the rest. The only pieces I keep in hard copy form are those that include hand and foot prints (for size reference).



Lead by example and always choose experiences over things.  This is the first year when Eric and I finally came out of the Minimalist closet to our friends and family for the Holidays.  They probably thought they were getting nothing-LOL! Surprise this has been the best most STRESS-FREE Christmas we’ve ever had.

  • My Mom-a gift card to Bonefish–she’s always wanted to go.  Now my Dad has to take her. Lol…
  • My Dad-A Netflix subscription. Remember how I said they don’t have cable?  Both of my parents LOVE this gift.
  • Friends-They all get Chick-fil-a calendars which gives you one free menu item a month. They can recycle the calendar itself immediately but now once a month we can meet at Chick-fil-A for lunch! Seriously, the calendars are like $6. I ended up giving them a gas cards too.
  • Eric’s Parents-A membership to the Tallahassee Museum (Zoo). Now they can take Evan to see the animals for free anytime they like.
  • Eric and I gave each other 1 surprise thing that we need and then we get something nice together that we both use. (i.e. next year it might be a new mattress! fingers crossed!)
  • My Brother-Any variation of Walmart, Target or Gas Cards. perfect.

Here is the link I used to help people with gifting around Christmas. 


We let people know well enough in advance that we didn’t want things for Christmas. Everyone did so great. We got cash. PERFECT. No stress on their behalf and cash is always in my size.

My Birthday really took me by surprise. By this time my friends were starting to get the hang of it and the result was an emotional tidal wave of gratitude and love that I wasn’t expecting. Here are some gifts that made me scream excitedly:

We saved an otter and then got drunk! The world is truly a better place. 


When you remove the option of things as gifts, what you do receive becomes more creative and heartfelt.  This is one of my favorite songs, played by one of my favorite people. And is one of my most favorite gifts from a friend.  It brings tears to my eyes every time I hear it. And now I share this gift with you.

Minimalism: Gifts

Becoming A Minimalist: Family

First, a little history….

My Parents:  Minimalists By Default


I believe I was groomed for this lifestyle at an early age thanks to my parents. My parents came from nothing and now have something-a lot of somethings and investments in areas I don’t even understand.  When I say nothing I mean they lived in a trailer with no AC in central Florida. They qualified for welfare, but refused to take it.  My dad grew our food in the backyard. I was eating organic before it was a thing!  But they worked HARD for everything they have from their college education to their current (paid-for) home. The struggle was very real for them–in a way I didn’t fully understand until I became an adult.   My brother and I always had everything we needed, but just not everything we wanted.  Even when the money started coming in, we never had cable or video games. I didn’t have a CD player until I was 20 and that was given to me by my brother-(I think out of pity watching me wind up cassettes with a pencil).  By this time, my parents could afford all of those things, but they understood what was a necessity and what was not. They understood how to save and live within your means. They are the best at not falling victim to advertising.  I don’t have cable by my own choice now and music is digital. My CDs and cassettes are long gone.

When I formally introduced Minimalism to my parents, the timing was perfect.  My Dad had just bought a sports car! (It took him at least a year before pulling the trigger on that decision. Big purchases take FOREVER.).  I saw the concern on my Dad’s face and quickly reassured him with the two qualifying questions: Can you afford it? Yes. Does it add value to your life? Yes, immensely since they can’t ride their motorcycles anymore. I love the car. I’m very happy that they have it. They deserve every bit of joy that car affords them.  They will enjoy the memories and experiences.

Sidenote: My mom and all her sentimental knicky-knacks, Kay jewelry and doilies is still hoping I “come around” and decide I want them one day. LOL……no.



My Husband:  The Hesitant Minimalist

I think its fair to say I’m an action-before-analytics kind of person. My husband, however is not.  He reads owners manuals….for pleasure!  Once I’ve embraced an idea, there’s really no stopping me. When things started flying out the door Eric said: what’s going on? I’m minimizing!  Poor Eric, always the guinea pig to my wild ideas. I keep life interesting for him. He never knows what ideas I’ll come home with next. Below are a list of suggestions and observations, based on all the mistakes I made.

  • Talk Before Taking Action: I did not do this. I explained OUR new lifestyle to  Eric  while I was tossing shoes and clothes out of the closet like a mole digging dirt.  Needless to say Eric was confused and disoriented…possibly a bit panicked.
  • Patience: Start with yourself and lead by example. Minimize your wardrobe and let them see how much easier it is to get into the closet.
  • NEVER TOSS ANYTHING THAT ISN’T YOURS: Just like you can’t force an addict into recovery, the choice has to be theirs. It will mean more to them anyway when a decision they made (with only minor cohesion) results in a happy outcome.
  • Compassion for Sentimental Attachments to Things:  I didn’t have it. This subject by far lead to our biggest arguments during our minimizing journey.  I also think this is the biggest stumbling block and causes the most discomfort for people.  (Sidetone: I still have trouble understanding this and will probably write a full post about this at a later date.) I haven’t experienced the loss of a parent like Eric has and so he kind of had me over an empathy barrel on these discussions.  So here’s the response I have come up with that allowed Eric to let go of a lot more things than before.  He still retains some items, but I’ll take progress at any rate.

This thing is not that person.  That person is always with you–in your heart and soul.  And the person in Heaven wants you to be happy and live an extraordinary life.  If some of their leftover stuff is preventing you from doing so, they want you to get it out of your way. They don’t need it anymore.  The last thing they want is for you to hold on to something of theirs that doesn’t add value to your life–out of guilt and perceived obligation.

Or as one of The Minimalists puts it after losing his mother and having to deal with both his grief and her things…

“I am not my stuff; we are more than our possessions.
Our memories are within us, not within our things.
Holding on to stuff imprisons us; letting go is freeing.
You can take pictures of items you want to remember.
Old photographs can be scanned.
An item that is sentimental for us can be useful for someone else.”


That being said, I still have the teddy bear my grandmother gave me I was 7. I have no intention of giving him away. If that’s the only hassle I leave Evan to deal with, I’m good with that.

Once Eric started to see what a relief it was to live with less and in his case, maintain less,  he was onboard.  Now we just walk around the house sometimes and point out more stuff we want gone.  It’s kind of fun! Our once cramped 1260 S.F. home feels WONDERFUL, CLEAN and BEAUTIFUL. It’s the perfect size for E3 and Onyx.

When M.O.R.E. is Good!


Removing distractions and re-calibrating your focus on important aspects of life and relationships is healing (see article below). Yet again, I feel like I’m presenting something we already know. Humans don’t like change.  So instead of taking action to remove or fix those things that detract from our life we tend to anesthetize (i.e. TV, alcohol, shopping, busy-ness, Candy Crush-guilty!).  I’ve become more mindful of even minor aggravations (i.e. not being able to find keys, grabbing a pen from a cup of pens that don’t have ink anymore, my forgetfulness etc.).  I’ve noticed that although these annoyances are minor, they add up during your day and affect your overall happiness.  Being aware of them means I remove them-IMMEDIATELY.  Or in the case of my keys, install a hook near the front door. Tony Robbins says “procrastination is a theif!” I heard that–TR with your big ‘ol banana hands!!

Also, do not feel guilty if minimizing your obligations creates a better life for your inner circle.  Those who live in your home come first before all others.  If you spread yourself too thin, you are of no use to anyone. I’m terribly guilty of this myself. Outsource help for someone you can’t get to right away. Sometimes I’ll even call a mutual friend and ask them to go check on the person in need.

What a fantastic find this article was!

Source: M.O.R.E.

The Stuff: Buh-Bye Now


“Owning less is far more beneficial than organizing more.”- Joshua Becker, becoming


As a chick when talking to chicks, my closet and wardrobe are what I am most frequently asked about.  I only use a 3′ wide rod in my closet and two dresser drawers for all of my clothes-that’s it.  I pack away my “winter” and summer clothes which alternately hang on the rod at different times of the year.  I make the seasonal switch twice a year and naturally, purge my wardrobe at that time. If ever my clothes start to expand past the 3′ rod, something is going.  Knowing me, a LOT of somethings are going.  The benefit:  Last time I did the seasonal switch it took 20 minutes. The hardest part is deciding when to do the seasonal switch in north Florida. Cold? Hot? Rain? Hurricane? Who knows….


The struggle is minimal.

  • Clothes-Use the 90/90 rule.
  • Shoes-I have no right to make any recommendations to you-I have weaknesses too.
  • Everyone has a favorite color. You don’t have to wear all black or grey (unless you listen to The Cure all day and that is your favorite color). Choose essential pieces that include or coordinate with the color you most love to wear.





  • Actually 90/90 rule works for most anything.  You can also switch it to the 180/180 or whatever works best for you.
  • Towels and linens-If they are old and holy (cue angelic harp music!) and there is no fitted sheet/flat sheet match trash them. Or if you’re a real man who works on cars and stuff frequently, save a few for garage rags. Hell-donate them to a body shop!
  • Furniture that is never used, especially if it causes frustration or annoyance–Sell, donate, eliminate. Do not re-purpose, that’s one more thing on your to-do list that will take away from you doing something meaningful.
  • Newspapers, magazines and mail-Recycle, shred ASAP.
  • Knick knacks and doilies-If you find them and didn’t know you had them, you don’t need them! Not on display? Not useful? Don’t like them?  You have my permission to give them to someone who will or toss them.
  • Books and Music (CDs and cassettes)-Let the library store them for you.  If you want them, you know where they are.  I just went and counted.  We, as a family, now own 7 hard copy books. One of which I reference frequently, one is the Bible (I need Jesus!), the other ironically is the book Essential Essays by The Minimalists and is autographed. The other books are not mine.
  •  Junk Drawer? Allow me to introduce the 20/20 rule!
  • Old Photos-Digitize them, toss the photo albums. Nobody looks through them anyway.  Get a digital photo frame if you must.  People will enjoy seeing the pictures flip by passively than hauling out that 20 lb., now off-white, photo album with the peel-up plastic on a sticky-back discolored page full of polaroids.   But for real, if your house catches fire, at least the irreplaceable is in the cloud.
  • Important Documents-see above.
  • Eliminate Duplicate Tools-Unless cooking is your passion, why do you need more than one spatula? Or even a mixer for that matter? 90/90 your kitchen baby! Thanks to my Dad, I found about 13 Dollar Tree flashlights received as gifts (that’s right, gifts)  while minimizing.  There was about a 30% success rate on their ability to illuminate. goodbye
  • Eliminate what you can borrow or share-We don’t own a chainsaw. My Dad has two (My parents live in a field-I’m not even sure why he has one!) and lives 3 miles away.  We don’t need to house a chainsaw of our own.  My mother-in-law makes furniture (among other amazing things) as a hobby.  Her wood-working tools add value to her life, but they are unnecessary for us to own.  Eric just borrows some wood cutting, sanding contraption for a day or so if need be. Perfect.
  • Kid Stuff-Go Here.